Are Your Values Valuable ?
By Sam Jarman –
Often when we are approached by a sports team, school or business, there are references to the ‘values’ that the organisation has decided are important for their people to embody or express.
There is frustration from coaches or leaders, when they feel that others are not living up to or abiding by those values, and their behaviour doesn’t reflect what they believe the organisation stands for and represents.
Occasionally, the reason we have been invited in is to find out why, and to offer a technique or strategy to change attitudes.
Unfortunately, that’s not something we can help with. What we can do is explain why the current strategy isn’t working, and offer some clarity around what values really are.
What Is A Value?
There seems to be confusion about what a value is. There is definitely a misunderstanding about where values come from and how teams and organisations can base their culture around them.
Perhaps this is to do with the number of different ways the word can be used in the English language. My dictionary lists 18 different definitions.
The one which seems most relevant for this essay would seem to be:
Important and lasting beliefs or ideals shared by the members of a culture about what is good or bad, and what is desirable and undesirable.
Which seems simple enough, but still leaves room for misunderstanding and confusion.
Firstly, it might be helpful to clarify the difference between a value, and a belief or an ideal.
Beliefs and ideals are products of the intellect. Unlike values, they point to the personal rather than the universal.
They might be relevant for one individual, but not for everyone. For one team or sport, but not others. They might well change over time as the team or organisation evolves, or as the society in which it operates changes.
Now it’s fine to have beliefs and ideals, and even to make them important parts of your organisational culture, strategy or plan.
But values come before beliefs. They are stable, constant, primary.
They are the ground where beliefs and ideals originate.
Values Are Universal
There are aspects of the human experience which are common to everyone.
They point to and originate from the same source. We might not understand this at an intellectual level, but we instinctively know and recognise the feelings when we are acting from that knowing.
We might describe this source as our true nature, consciousness or being. It is what we refer to when we say the words ‘I’ or ‘I am’.
This is who we are at the most fundamental level – prior to personal thought, ideas, theories or concepts.
The knowing of true nature is experienced as a feeling of happiness, love, enthusiasm, oneness, connection, peace or well-being.
These are all words to describe the same intuition, the same embodied understanding.
If you ask someone what is most important to them, what they want most from life, they would probably say one or more of these words.
Therefore, we could say that that the purpose of life, what most people are striving for, is to experience these feelings more, and the absence of these feelings, known as suffering, less often.
Therefore we can describe this desire for happiness as a universal human value, because it is what we all regard as most valuable.
Values Are Primary
If this is so, it makes sense for the beliefs and ideals of a sporting organisation to reflect the experience that every human being cherishes most highly of all.
A value is primary. It needs to be realised and understood first.
From our values we derive our principles or beliefs. How we want to live our life or play the game.
From our principles, habits, policies and behaviours will flow.
Beliefs, habits, policies and behaviours will change over time, and differ from person to person.
Values are something permanent, unchanging, constant.
Where people and organisations run into problems, is when they take a behaviour that they want to see and attempt to make it into a value or a principle.
This is putting the cart before the horse.
Behaviours Are Not Values
For example, I often see hard work and motivation described as values.
Hard work is not primary. Giving your best effort is a symptom of love for what you are doing.
Enthusiasm is the value, which points us back to true nature.
Teamwork is not a value. Teamwork is a symptom of a feeling of belonging, of connection with the group and a shared identity.
Love is the value, which points us back to true nature.
Respect is not a value. Respect comes from the realisation there is no separation from the other person or team, a recognition of them having the same source as you.
Oneness is the value, which points us back to true nature.
Discipline is not a value. Discipline is a symptom of knowing an outcome cannot enhance or diminish who you really are.
Well-being or inner peace is the value, which points to true nature.
The best way of encouraging an authentic, inspiring culture to develop within your organisation, is to ground it in the universal values which every human being knows and experiences as the feelings described above.
Principles Derive From Values
Once you have understood them and where they come from, if they wish to do so, it is easier for the group to develop some principles to define the direction you wish to travel.
From these principles or beliefs, appropriate behaviours and policies will effortlessly evolve.
There will be no need to enforce them, or remind people or to have rules and regulations in place. There will be no need to motivate or invoke willpower to get things done. You have already grounded your culture in what everyone naturally wants anyway, so progress is effortless.
Values police themselves.
The problem with the ‘values’ in most organisations is that they aren’t values at all. They’re rules, or expectations.
Who likes endlessly being reminded what to do or how to behave? Who enjoys having the weight of expectations constantly on their shoulders?
Clarity, Not Confusion
When you confuse values with beliefs or behaviours, you can run into trouble.
There will be inconsistency and confusion.
For example, if you run a business, you might want your design department to ‘value’ creativity.
The accounts department, not so much.
If you are a rugby team, you might ‘value’ structure and organisation in defence, but want the same players to have freedom in attack.
Expressing these as ideals or policies makes them easier to understand.
Values are universal. No one will disagree with them. They can misunderstand where they come from, or forget they are innate, but it’s hard to argue that love, happiness, enjoyment and well-being are not important to everyone.
If you have ‘values’ which aren’t resonating, or a being resisted, it’s probably because they are beliefs, or behaviours, not values.
How Do We Want This to Feel?
Values are effortlessly expressed in the qualities of resilience, resourcefulness, enthusiasm, integrity, creativity and insight which will serve us in all situations.
If as coaches and leaders, we help people to see that this potential is freely available to them all the time, rather than binding them with rules and expectations, we will be regularly surprised with the solutions and performances they come up with.
We can relax, and in doing so allow them to do the same.
So, when it comes to defining your values, rather that thinking about what you want to see, ask yourself, and those who will be joining you in the endeavour,
‘How do we want this to feel?’
‘Regardless of the outcome, what would make this experience worthwhile?’
As a result, you are much more likely to find the love, connection, wisdom and enjoyment which will sustain you on the journey, regardless of the twists and turns which will inevitably ensue.
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